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Baby On The Way

Hello, world!

Friends, the bump is back. Baby #2 is on the way, due December 2!

Now that all the initial feelings of fear, anxiety and nausea have (mostly) passed, I feel incredibly blessed to be expecting again. My son will have a brother or sister, and I know from experience that’s a wonderful thing.­

The first few weeks of this pregnancy were tough, which is why I’ve been underground for a little while. I’ve been dealing with a couple health issues, one of which is an autoimmune disorder and both of which cause fatigue and general malaise. Adding pregnancy exhaustion on top of that left me feeling pretty awful overall.

In those early weeks, I ignored what my body was trying to tell me and went into full indulgence mode. Like the first time around, I completely abandoned my healthy eating plan and started stuffing my face with whatever sounded delicious: cereal, toast, ice cream, waffles, pasta, butter, bread, sugar, bread, sugar, sugar, sugar …

As a result, I started feeling worse and worse. I was dragging myself around the house, barely functioning and not at all being the fun, attentive mom I wanted to be. I found myself feeling pretty negative about the whole pregnancy experience.

When life gets hard, nothing soothes the soul like a conversation with a good friend. For me, a simple phone call from a friend turned out to be a beacon of light in my time of need.

My friend reminded me that I can’t take care of this baby without taking care of myself. My autoimmune disease means that I have inflammation throughout my body, which flares up when I’m not following a healthy lifestyle. The most reliable trigger is unhealthy eating and — although I’ve been following an anti-inflammatory diet for the past couple years — I finally had to admit that I never fully committed to it.

Most importantly, I learned that my autoimmune disease can have a serious impact on the baby. That was enough to make me turn things around for good.

The morning after my friend’s pep talk, I went back to the anti-inflammatory diet I’ve been casually following, but this time with a vengeance. No wheat, no dairy, no rice, no corn, no sugar (!), no pasta, no cereal, no bread, crackers or cookies and only a limited amount of lean, organic meat. Processed foods, snack foods and even gluten-free substitutes are out. And, hardest of all: no coffee.

Despite the difficulty of coming off more than 15 years of unconditional love for coffee, I felt instantly better after quitting cold turkey. After feeling bad for such a long time, it was like coming out of a dark cave into the light.

This is not to say that pregnancy is all light and joy, of course. I’m not a terribly disciplined person and I fall off the wagon from time to time. I’m haven’t completely figured out which foods are best to include or exclude from my complicated diet, and my energy level is still pretty low. But there’s no question that I’m doing better than I was, and that makes it all worth it.

So you may be wondering after all this, what do I eat? Lots of fruit and veggies, beans, quinoa, green smoothies, salads, goat cheese and many cups of tea. I’ve found some incredible cookbooks and food blogs that have helped me and I’ll share the recipes I like over the next few weeks.

Hopefully I’ll continue to feel pretty good. Maybe I’ll even stay within the recommended weight gain this time around instead of blowing right past it. Just the other day my husband told me how good I look, cheerfully remarking, “You don’t even look pregnant from the front or the side. Just from the back.”

Friends, you win some, you lose some.

12 responses »

  1. So excited for you! Hang in there…its a rough ride but its totally worth it!

  2. Congrats on the good news! Bet you can’t wait till the front catches up with the back, lol. That statement made me laugh.

  3. SHUT UP!!! I can’t believe you are starting over what we started what feels like so long ago!! Congrats! AH!!!!!

  4. Hey, congratulations! That’s really, really great (except for the whole autoimmune thing, of course – man, I’m not sure I could give up wheat, or dairy, rice, corn, sugar, pasta, bread, or cookies, but if you’ve got to, well then, you’ve got to.) I haven’t read your blog in some time, and it was amazing to reacquaint myself with it on the very day you announce another bump! All the best.

  5. Stacey girl, first I’m so happy for Hudson’s brother or sister! Second I wish you feeling better and it seems like you are taking steps to do that although I did wonder what you could eat after all the nos. You have developed into such a wonderful mother with Hudson that I know the second one will be easier! Kissing your whole family and looking forward to hearing your blog!! Love, mommy Jan

  6. Melinda DelGarbino

    Congratulations!!! What a wonderful family you and Stephen are building! Hudson will be a great big brother!
    Your cousins, Heather and I share an autoimmune disease with you. Heather is much better with her AIG diet, but I am learning and feel much better without grains, dairy, eggs and coffee! You know the drill!!!!! 🙂 Keep on keepin’ on!!

    • Wow, that’s amazing. Hope you all continue to feel well on your diet — it’s definitely not easy! So glad to have you as a reader. Best wishes to you and your family.

  7. Congratulations! This just adds another layer of happiness that you can share on the blog. Lol. I looking forward to reading your adventures! 🙂


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